"I love in order that I may love." St. Bernard of Clairvaux
How do you love? Count the ways. Figure out the pattern. I'll bet you can't.
St. Bernard had a method: Love in order to know love. Love in order that you will feel love.
Love in order that you may show love. Love begets love. Love's seed is within itself. We must love so we will know more of love and so love will have a bigger part of us. Love is the pattern for love. There's no other way, but to love.
As my niece pointed out, love is not only giving (see Post dated January 27), but it is also in the receiving. Are you willing to receive the love that is given to you? Love if given, needs to be accepted. Sometimes that is the hardest part, receiving. I am a giver by nature, so it's hard for me to receive. But, I must submit to receiving what God has so freely given me...the pain and the joy. Admonish yourself when you refuse to receive His blessing. His greatest blessing is love.
I know we think the opposite. Love is getting and getting and getting more. It's limitless. We certainly don't want to be giving and giving and giving on end. That wears us out. But, the truth be known: Love is giving, all the time, in all kinds of ways, at mostly inconvenient times. When we realize that, it will make giving a lot easier. Expect to give. Desire to give. Experience the joy of giving, by giving love.