Restore the Love

Elizabeth Bernstein writing for the Wall Street Journal (April 16, 2011), enlightens us on how to argue, or how best to handle your anger. In the article I was delighted to stumble upon love. She advises us, "Before telling someone you are angry, remind yourself of the purpose of speaking up. 'The intention is not to get something off your chest or to dump something on the other person.' The intention is to restore the affinity and the love in the relationship."

I think if we could remember this it would help us in our relationships. It's always about moving us back into a loving relationship. It's about restoring that which is lost. The goal of arguing is not to make them "see," but to place us back into harmony...love.